what happens when your man wants to bottom and you are the bottom?
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star fox had a good relationship with his mr. big wolf.
they met years before and were instantly attracted to each other.
they ended up separating and finding themselves back to each other.
star fox always considered himself a fox with slight hybrid tendencies.
when he got back with mr. big wolf,
they ended up committing to each other and living together.
one night,
mr. big wolf asked star fox to top him.
star fox told me during the act,
and not even a few strokes into it,
mr. big wolf turned around and said:
“This feels weird and I don’t like it.
This is a one-and-done in you ever toppin’ me again.”
…and quickly bent star fox over for his usual night cap.
even though mr. big wolf was “mr. big fox” in other relationships,
star fox showed up as a fox and he took on that role.
as gay males,
do we adapt and form gay relationships with how we show up?
or if the relationship goes on for more than a month…
What happens if that suddenly changes?
a foxholer sent me a discussion on twitter with gay power couple,
tyronenjohnell.
they were asked this:
their answer…
hmm.
in some straight relationships,
if a vixen can’t perform or the sex starts to dwindle,
that is when the cheating starts.
Imagine what happens with two males in a relationship with nothing in common besides sex.
are gay males really equipped to handle relationships?
putting all the superficial IG “fantasy” shit to the side…
“What if the 1/2 of the relationship doesn’t want to try bottoming?”
“What if 1/2 of the relationship wants to switch roles completely?”
“What if 1/2 sustains an injury that stops them from bottoming?”
“What if your 1/2 sex drive becomes non-existent?”
“What if your 1/2 wants to transition?”
“What if your 1/2 decides to become straight?”
like some of the straights,
many gays hop into relationships for the wrong reasons.
when some shit goes down,
or the honeymoon phase wears off,
we are left wanting to leave or pulling out the “open relationship” card.
relationships aren’t onlyfans collabs or filtered for social media likes.
we can have sex with anyone but relationships are much different.
when your perfect relationship starts to become imperfect,
and it’s easier to cheat than stay…
Do you stand by your 1/2 even when things change?
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